This website has gone through so many names and approaches over the past fourteen years and, consequently, I’ve added and removed content regularly. Now that I’ve finally settled on what I’m doing (and blogging gurus can go jump in a lake), I’ve been going through my unpublished archives to see if there are things I should bring back.
I have a massive collection of archives, full of posts that I’ve removed from my site (sites, really) for one reason or another. I was looking this week through some of the earlier posts I had written about life with Caroline and was stunned by how much they fit the narrative and the arc of our story here. I had removed many of them because they didn’t “fit” whatever I was trying to do at the time.
Old Blog Posts Fill In Important Details
But I realized that some of them really need to be put back on because they show the process of what it means to have a gifted/2e child before you begin to grasp that complete picture. They illustrate the all-to-familiar struggles before you really comprehend what you are actually struggling with. When you look back, they are now crystal clear in terms of what was going on.
I also have a lot of unpublished posts that are very faith focused. My faith has always been a central part of my blogging except for when I believed I had to completely downplay it in order to “reach” certain groups (cough – parents of gifted children – cough) among whom many (most?) talking too much about the Christian faith was frowned up or completely disqualified you for having anything to important to say. Really.
So all of that started me going back through more of my archives.
And then that made me think about the question in the title of this post.
Should Bloggers Edit Their Past?
I have a published post about our decision to have an only child that I wrote in real time, shortly after Caroline was born. When I republished it a few years ago, I put a disclaimer on the top of it that if I were to write it today, I would say some things differently. But I opted not to change the content because it represented who I was at the time and some of the outside Christian cultural forces that were impacting my thinking.
If I completely rewrote that post and gave my reasons now for deciding to have an only child, it would be impacted by twelve plus years with that child, twelve years of life, twelve years of spiritual growth/experiences, etc. It really wouldn’t be accurate. In many ways I’m a different person today than I was then.
I could write a post today about why I would or would not recommend having an only child, but it would be coming from a completely different perspective.
What We Lose When We Rewrite Blog Posts
I think when we rewrite posts, update them, and make them fit the current blogging or cultural narrative, we lose something very valuable. We airbrush over who we were and fail to let people see fully who we have become over time and by the grace of God.
Isn’t it be better to leave those posts as they were originally written and add a disclaimer? In some ways I think we do people a much greater service by leaving them there and then sharing a link to how our thinking has changed. I believe this is probably especially true for people who write about faith, parenting, homeschooling, etc. These are all topics where our thinking can really develop over the years depending on the way God leads in our lives.
That’s one of the joys and dangers of blogging. You have the opportunity to share your journey with other people, all the while knowing that things you write could come back to haunt you at some point in the future.
(And this is why I don’t think we should shame or go after people when it comes to light that they said something stupid years and years ago. We all say and do things we later regret and our lives shouldn’t be destroyed because of it.)
But there is nothing authentic or real about going back and making who I was at 39 or 40 “fit” who I am now.
So all that to say that as I add older posts to my site to fill in more of the gaps, I’m not going to edit them in terms of updating the content. I may add a disclaimer if I feel it is really important, but I’m not going to pretend I was something I wasn’t.
Reposting an Old Series
I’ve reposted a series I did to celebrate by fortieth birthday that I re-titled to 40 Things I’ve Learned By Age 40. People appreciated it at the time and I hope people will find this faith-based series encouraging again. Would I say some things differently now? Yes. But the overall truth is there and that hasn’t changed a bit. You can read all the parts of this series by using the links below. I highly recommend reading them in order.
Cristy S
I agree with you, Sallie. I do think an update is often necessary, and I love reading posts along the lines of “What would I tell my 30-something self about parenting, now that I’m 53” … the differences, and how we arrive at them with age (and wisdom?) are almost as fascinating as where we are.
It will be interesting to read some of these resurrected posts of yours.
An aside (sort of) … I laugh often at the gifted parents who scoff at my faith. I was a gifted child raised by a lapsed Catholic and a Christmas/Easter Christian, sometimes-mother. I think raising my gifted girl in faith has been easier on us both, although she is only 14. 😉
Sallie
Hi Cristy,
I confess I was surprised by the open hostility to Christians and Christianity among the broader gifted community. I think it surprised me because as parents of gifted kids (and gifted adults ourselves, in many cases) we already deal with so much “stuff” from people who don’t understand. You would think the gifted community would be more accepting, but it seems Christianity is one of those areas where it isn’t happening.
There is a whole lot of stuff I would tell my 30 year old self. But then if we did some of those things differently we have no idea how that would change many other areas of our lives in ways we might not ultimately like. So we keep going and trust God. 🙂
Sallie
Peggy
Thank you, Sallie, for reposting the 40 Things by 40 series. Number 40 really spoke to me this time.
Sallie
HI Peggy,
You’re welcome. It was good for me to read them again. I needed reminding of some of these truths, especially after a long 2018. I was reminded that God is always working, even when I can’t see it.
Happy New Year to you!
Sallie
Ticia
I’ve gone in and updated old posts, but when I do, I put in “Future Ticia” comments, and they’re mostly things I’ve learned since then.
I go back and forth on completely deleting and changing stuff, but you’ve got a good point overall about not changing the posts.
Sallie
Hi Ticia,
That’s an interesting way to approach it with adding comments of what you’ve learned since you originally wrote the post. I do think that’s helpful.
I think as homeschoolers it’s REALLY important for new homeschoolers to see how much our thinking evolves and how many mistakes and/or false starts we make on our homeschooling journey. My early posts about preschool and homeschooling reflect how much I have struggled with this process. If I went back and edited them to reflect what I SHOULD have done, then I’m losing the most valuable thing I can share with new homeschoolers and parents of gifted kids – the process – which is just as valuable as what we get right in the first place.
But I do think I will go back and insert an addendum to some of the posts. It would be good to share links to later posts that explain why my plans worked or failed.
Sallie
Ticia
I’ve enjoyed doing it this way, and it lets me go back and add in things I would do now, either because my philosophy has changed or because I have found new products or ideas, and of course add in affiliate links 🙂