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Living Simply With A Gifted Child

October 10, 2014 by Sallie Borrink
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When I started blogging many years ago, my focus was primarily faith and simple living. As my life changed, my blogging changed as well. I still write about simple living, but the topics related to it have slowly expanded. Rather than being about a married couple living simply, it now includes a child, homeschooling, gifted/2e, home business, and more.

Meshing my desire for a simpler life with having a differently-wired child has led to lots of reflection, adjustments and, frankly, desperate prayers over the years. With every stage of Caroline’s growth and development we’ve had to rethink some of our choices. In some cases, we’ve had to make choices that were the exact opposite of what we had previously done to simplify our lives because what worked for us as a couple did not work with the addition of a child. Here are three simple living choices we’ve made in order to accommodate life with a differently-wired child.

Adjust Our Schedule

This morning I had to go out early for blood work. It was still dark when we left home and the sun was just freshly up as we were coming home. It made me realize how much I missed being up and around early in the day. David and I were early risers when it was the two of us. We tried to get as much done as possible before noon.

Caroline, on the other hand, is a night owl. She is up until 10:00 p.m. (or later) every night. We’ve tried everything to try to reset her clock and it doesn’t work. I’m not going to lie. This is not what I would choose. I can’t imagine what it would be like to have a child who goes to bed at 8:00 every night. We’ve had it happen a couple of times when she’s been sick and fallen asleep earlier and it’s just mind-boggling.

When it became obvious that Caroline was a night-owl, David and I made the choice to adjust our schedule. We now get up later and stay up later. We also tend to homeschool in the afternoon and evening. Again, it isn’t what I would choose, but this is what we need to do so we do it.

Stay Home

The first few years with Caroline we rarely went anywhere we didn’t have to because maintaining our routine was so critical to keeping life on an even keel in our home. Negotiating additional major transitions throughout the day was never worth it so we kept things pretty normal day after day, week after week, month after month. Gone were cozy nights out at the bookstore. We never went out in the evening. Gone was running errands at the drop of a hat. We didn’t go out when it would involved missing nap-times.

As Caroline got a little older, we were out and about more but we were still very much homebodies at heart. When she was a baby I was sure Caroline had to be an extrovert because she never wanted to be alone, wanted to be held and carried around all the time, etc. Now that I know her better, I can see she has a strongly introverted side. And as we’ve recently discovered in a profound way, none of us deal well with a lack of margin. All of this leads to the need to stay home, make things fairly predictable, and take care of our introverted selves because there is nothing simple about living on overload.

Adjusting Expectations

Nothing will complicate your life quicker than having expectations that are completely out of line with who your child is wired to be. Insisting that a child be something she isn’t is a recipe for disaster on several levels. We invested a lot of time studying our child and looking for the information that would help us parent her most effectively.

We discovered numerous times that we were not doing what was best with her spiritedness. Once we began to put changes into place, our lives simplified a great deal. That isn’t to say it was always easy to make those changes. It wasn’t always easy. But as we applied those changes over time, life simplified greatly. We knew how to effectively parent our individual child which brought more peace to everyone.

I think all children will benefit from living more simply. But for a gifted/2e child, it might be the difference between getting by and truly flourishing.

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  1. Tammy

    January 12, 2015 at 6:29 pm

    This accurately captures why I get a sense of dread when I receive last minute social invitations –the lack of margin throws us all into a sort of frenzy. It’s really uncomfortable… and I couldn’t quite easily convey this to others. Love this post.

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  2. Sallie

    January 13, 2015 at 10:28 am

    Tammy – I’m so glad this post helped put your feelings and thoughts into words!

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  3. Tessa

    July 14, 2015 at 7:57 pm

    Spending some time reading your blog and I relate very much to your situation. We call our boy our “all or nothing child.” We have a lot of margin and don’t pick too many battles so most days are good and don’t have major meltdowns. There are those days, however, that just make me crazy. Unless you have a child that will gladly put on town clothes for church one week and then have a complete meltdown because he wants to wear his (dirty and stinky) farm clothes the next week, you can’t really understand the stress involved. Or the times when you butter their bread before putting on peanut butter because that’s what he always wants but, for some reason, this morning is different. But, at the end of the day, he is a joy and brings so much laughter to his brothers and my husband and me. My secret weapon is his older brother. For some reason, my eldest has a calming effect and can pull him out of the red zone quicker than anyone else.
    I completely agree that parenting takes a soft and cautious hand. We have been attachment parents from the start and I do think it helps to build that relationship as strong as it can be.
    Anyway, off to make supper and then read some more od your blog posts.

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