Twice-exceptional or 2e children are those who are both gifted and have a learning difference. Because they are gifted, they are far beyond their peers in at least some academic areas. Because they have a learning difference, they lag behind their peers in at least one area. These learning differences can be challenges such as dysgraphia, dyslexia, ADHD, sensory issues, etc.
2e and Asynchronous Development
The combination of being advanced in some areas and struggling in others leads to asynchronous development. This is the seven year old child who might read like a teenager, do math like a fifth grader, play like a seven year old and have the emotional intelligence of a four year old. Or it might be a ten year old who speaks like an adult, does math like a high school student, struggles with age-appropriate reading comprehension, and plays like a seven year old. The combinations are nearly endless. In each case, the child is out of sync developmentally which can lead to significant struggles educationally and emotionally.
There are some who believe 2e children “could be considered the most misunderstood of all exceptionalities”.
Parenting a 2e Child
Being the parent of a 2e child is challenging. This is true whether your child is in public school, private school or you homeschool. When you have a child who does not fit the “normal” parameters in an educational setting, it can be overwhelming for everyone involved.
But being the parent of a 2e child is fun once you get a grip on what your child needs and how to meet those needs! As the speakers in the videos below point out, 2e children are delightful! They are clever problem solvers with sophisticated language and a wicked good sense of humor. They have an insatiable curiosity! When you can begin to channel all of those unique personal traits in positive directions, they add so much richness to life!
I’ve put together this page for parents of 2e children. It is geared toward helping parents find resources that will help them understand their child and his/her unique needs. If I could share two things that I have learned in my journey so far it would be these.
1. Find people who understand. Don’t do this alone. Find a Facebook group. Find a local group. Find a Yahoo mailing list. Find a group of people who understand what it means to parent a 2e child. Other people simply will not fully grasp how this impacts your life. You absolutely need to know you are not alone or a parenting failure. Your child is more challenging to parent. Find people who understand and will support you.
2. Don’t look for the silver bullet that is going to solve everything. This is a long journey, not a quick fix. Early on in parenting I kept thinking if I could just figure out what the “thing” was that we were missing we could get on with “normal” parenting. If you have a 2e child, your life is not going to be like the lives of your friends and family members who have neurotypical children. It’s just not. Embrace the child and life you have been given and determine to enjoy the journey ahead!
Please remember the inclusion of a book, website or link is not an endorsement of all the content.
Books About Twice-Exceptional Children
Twice-Exceptional Gifted Children: Understanding, Teaching, and Counseling Gifted StudentsTwice-Exceptional Kids: A Guide for Assisting Students Who Are Both Academically Gifted and Learning DisabledSmart but Scattered: The RevolutionarySuccessful Strategies for Twice-Exceptional StudentsIf This is a Gift, Can I Send it Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice ExceptionalHow-To Homeschool Your Learning Abled Kid: 75 Questions Answered: For Parents of Children with Learning Disabilities or Twice Exceptional AbilitiesTwice-Exceptional and Special Populations of Gifted StudentsServing Twice Exceptional Gifted Learners: Gifted Education CommunicatorUniquely Gifted: Identifying and Meeting the Needs of the Twice-Exceptional StudentUnderstanding Your Twice-exceptional Student (Spotlight on 2e Series)Guiding the Twice-exceptional Child: A Collection of Columns by Meredith Warshaw (Spotlight on 2e Series)Parenting Your Twice-exceptional Child (Spotlight on 2e Series)
My Posts Related to 2e
These are my posts that deal primarily with 2e. I have many other posts that deal with giftedness in general and those will be found here.
The Key Was Understanding Twice-Exceptional (2e) – Sallie’s Story100 Reasons to Homeschool Your Gifted DaughterOccupational Therapy for Dysgraphia or Writing ProblemsAdjusting Expectations as the Parent of a Gifted ChildThe Day I Called the Public Elementary School – When Homeschooling is HardGifted/2e, Stealth Dyslexia and a Mother’s Support – Nicole’s StoryGifted Children Who Don’t Fit Grade Level ParametersThe Loneliness of Homeschooling a Gifted ChildRaising Gifted Children in the Christian FaithThinking about Gifted/2e from a Christian PerspectiveDisciplining Gifted and 2e Children in the Christian FaithGifted and 2e Children at ChurchGifted and 2e Children Asking Hard Spiritual QuestionsGifted Children in the Classroom from a Teacher’s PerspectiveHomeschooling Curriculum for Gifted/2e Visual-Spatial LearnersThe Need for More Margin in Families with Gifted ChildrenDiscipling Children in Christ Outside the Box
Articles and Blog Posts About 2e
These are articles and blog posts written by other authors.
Asynchronous Development and the Gifted Child from My Little Poppies
Asynchronous Development in Gifted Children from Raising Lifelong Learners
Darn Those Mythological Gifted Kids Who Are a Construct of Our Social Norms from Gluten-Free Mum
Dual/2e from GiftedKids.ie
Gifted Visual-Spatial Learners are Twice-Neglected from Crushing Tall Poppies
LEGO® and the Gifted Visual-Spatial Child from Crushing Tall Poppies
Special Education and Homeschoolers from Hand in Hand Education
The Six Types of Gifted Child: The Twice-exceptional from Jade Ann Rivera
5 Tips to Conquer Homework with a 2E Kid from Up Parenting Creek
Anxiety and Giftedness. What is the reality? from Up Parenting Creek
In Defense of Perfectionism from Up Parenting Creek
Twice Exceptional on Wikipedia
What is 2e? from 2enewsletter
Websites Devoted to Giftedness and 2e
Bloggers Who Write About 2e
Cait at My Little Poppies
Celi at Crushing Tall Poppies
Colleen at Raising Lifelong Learners
Jade at Jade Ann Rivera
Jen at Laughing at Chaos
Jo at Sprite’s Site
Kathleen at Gluten-Free Mum