Our first year of parenting with a high need baby was difficult.
I mean really difficult.
I mean depressingly difficult.
I know everyone says that having a baby is a challenge, but it truly was depressingly difficult. I was bewildered by this precious gift from God. I wasn’t a stranger to babies. I had done copious amounts of babysitting, including the baby next door starting when she was a week old. I had worked as a teacher. I had spent lots of time around children.
I like babies and babies always like me.
After all that experience and years of praying and asking for a child, I was not prepared for the one I received.
Our High Need Baby
I did not realize Caroline was a high need infant until long after the fact.
I chalked it all up to us being new parents, exhaustion, sleep deprivation, the winter doldrums, etc. I so wish I had found these resources the first few months. I truly believe our first year as parents would have been much happier. Our daughter fits the descriptions in the Dr. Sears articles below to a tee. I can’t begin to tell you how freeing and affirming it was to read Dr. Sears talk about his own high-need baby. He was an experienced parent who also found himself bewildered by this child who was so much more than the others had ever been.
When I say that I understand what you are dealing with, I truly mean that.
If you have a high-need baby, I know how hard it is.
I know that other people don’t understand why you can’t make the baby do what you want it to do. They don’t understand. I understand that.
You are not crazy! Your baby IS harder to parent.
Parenting a High Need Baby Does Get Easier
I can also tell you that it does get easier. We invested so much physical, emotional, and spiritual energy into figuring out our daughter. I’m not going to lie. The first four years were tough. Each year it was a little easier, but when she was around four it reached a tipping point where it got much easier much more quickly. We are now reaping the rewards of that. She’s
eight and a half nine ten eleven now and it is so much easier. She’s a delightful little girl young lady. We learned what works with her and what doesn’t.
It does get easier. You will get through this!
I hope you find the information below to be helpful. Please feel free to leave a comment if you need to dump on someone. I would consider it an honor to help you vent your frustrations. I will do my best to respond to each comment on this page because I know how hard it is.
Hang in there! Better days are coming!
Please note: The following links are to interesting and thought-provoking reading. The inclusion of a link is not an endorsement of all its content or the content of the site on which it is found.
Books about High Need Babies
I soooo wish I had discovered these books sooner than I did. The Wonder Weeks book is fascinating and I could see how it played out time and again in our family. Just knowing there was a reason behind the extra fussiness was incredibly helpful!
The Fussy Baby Book: Parenting Your High-Need Child From Birth to Age FiveYour Fussy BabyThe Fussy Baby How to Bring Out the Best in Your High-Need ChildThe Wonder Weeks: How to Stimulate Your Baby’s Mental Development and Help Him Turn His 10 Predictable, Great, Fussy Phases into Magical Leaps Forward
My Posts About My High Need Baby
If you go through all the different topical pages on my site, you’ll notice that this is where I usually share my own posts about the page’s topic.
Please note there is nothing here.
That is how much having a high need baby derailed my writing on my website.
I was in sleep deprived survival mode.
I couldn’t figure out what to write because I was so overwhelmed and bewildered.
I wrote very little during the first year and nothing about babies because I had no idea what to say.
High Needs Baby Online Articles
- What High Need Means – A Story about Our High Needs Baby from AskDrSears.com
- 12 Lessons Our High Need Baby Taught Us from AskDrSears.com
- Changing Personality Profile as High Need Child Grows from AskDrSears.com
- 12 Features of a High Needs Baby from AskDrSears.com
- 5 Reasons Why High Need Children Sleep Differently from AskDrSears.com
- Parent-to-Parent: 20 Survival Tips for Parents of High Need Children from AskDrSears.com
- 6 Ways to Help a High Need Baby go to Sleep and Stay Asleep from AskDrSears.com
High Need Baby Discussion Boards
- Support for Raising Spirited Babies from Baby Whisperer Forum (Although this is about spirited babies, much will be helpful)
- HELP – How to Enjoy a “Spirited” Baby from Baby Whisperer Forum
You may also find my Raising a Highly Sensitive and Spirited Child page helpful!