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What Is A Gracious Christian Parent?

February 11, 2021 by Sallie Borrink
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For a long time I wasn’t sure how to describe our parenting approach. Labels carry so much baggage these days that I try to avoid them whenever possible. When I was deciding on a website category name for my general parenting posts, I finally landed on Gracious Christian Parenting. Then after I came to that conclusion I looked to see if it was already a “thing” that I wasn’t aware of. (It wasn’t when I looked.)

The Christian Parenting part of the name was easy because we’re parents who desire to follow Christ as we make our choices. But I felt it wasn’t complete. Gracious was the best word to add to it because I do believe we have endeavored to parent with much God-directed and God-provided grace over the past fourteen plus years.




I think someone going through my archives would begin to see a common thread of grace running through the things I’ve written and the choices we’ve made. But I wanted to share two screenshots I saved in the last several months that will illustrate what I’m talking about. I honestly don’t know who said these things and I have no desire to identify them. Although I believe both authors probably have sincere love for their children, one of these blessed me and the other made me sad and concerned for the children in that particular home.

I saw this first comment in answer to a question about a child struggling with being particular about foods. I had to screenshot it because it distressed me so much. I didn’t say anything to the mother who left it. I simply added my own thoughts to the string of comments. (You know mine were radically different if you’ve read my post Why I Don’t Micromanage My Picky Eater.)

I’d honestly like to pull apart this comment and discuss all the things I disagree with, but that would have to be another post.

Compare that attitude with the insight shared here. I don’t remember where I saw this or when I saved it. I’ve simply held on to it until I could use it in a post.

What a profound difference between the first mom and the second.




I found the first mom’s comments well meaning, but lacking in grace. Reading her sentences honestly made my stomach tighten in stress. I wonder about the long-term relationships she will have with her children as she pushes them to toughen up before they face the real world. I shudder to think where we would be in our family relationships if we had taken this approach with Caroline. If you’ve read through my homeschooling and gifted/2e archives, you will understand why.

The second mom is aware of her own shortcomings and recognizes how she isn’t as gracious to her children as she could be. Her comments encouraged me. We’ve had this conversation in our home when accidents happen. We don’t get upset with legitimate accidents. They happen to all of us, especially children. We clean it up and assure Caroline it is okay. We remind her that accidents happen and the only reason we would be upset with her was if she was truly messing around and not being careful. I’m not going to punish my daughter for having the abilities of a child or being – gasp! – human.

I haven’t taken the time to sit down and write a detailed list of what I think it means to be a gracious Christian parent. But I can provide you with these two examples that show different parenting attitudes. In my opinion, one is gracious and the other is not.

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  1. Mary

    February 13, 2021 at 8:50 am

    In raising our son, we told him the exact same thing that you said in your home! Accidents happen and we will not be upset by them, BUT if he was fooling around and he had been told to stop, yet continues, and something happens, THEN comes discipline. I loved the Starbucks example-I think we put a lot of pressure on our children that we wouldn’t on someone else. Thank you, Sallie, for sharing this. : ) Have a good weekend! Mary

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    • Sallie

      February 13, 2021 at 1:03 pm

      Hi Mary,

      Thank you for the comment! I hope you have a good weekend, too!

      Sallie

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  2. Amanda

    February 13, 2021 at 12:28 pm

    This is a lovely post Sallie! As a parent with a child who is a 2E perfectionist, I certainly resonate with the grace-filled parenting style. I hesitate to condemn other parenting styles though, because some children really do need the strict structure provided by other parenting styles. Children are all so different in their needs! Thankfully, God is grace-filled as well and knows exactly which parents are perfect for which children. We serve an awesome God! 🙂

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    • Sallie

      February 13, 2021 at 1:01 pm

      Hi Amanda,

      Thank you for the comment.

      I would actually like to pull apart the one mom’s comment and explain from the Scriptures why I think she’s wrong. I may or may not do that at some point.

      My goal is to share what I’ve learned as a parent and hope God leads the right people here at the right time to find the encouragement they need.

      Sallie

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  3. Cheryl

    December 14, 2021 at 9:52 am

    I think that both examples have merit, but I see pros and cons in each one. We had four children, and my philosophy was try your best to eat what is put in front of you. If you really don’t like it, that’s ok, just eat what you can. Seriously, I was concerned with providing nutritious, balanced meals. Throughout my trial and error process, I modified things for my children while trying to provide nutritious food that wouldn’t end up going to waste. As for the Starbucks example, I think it’s a bit of an apples to oranges comparison.

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