I hope you all had a nice Christmas. Ours was rather up and down. I won’t get into the details, but it wasn’t what we had planned. David and I both woke up feeling rather depressed Christmas Eve morning, but managed to get ourselves in hand and devise a few ways to rescue the holiday. All in all it turned out ok. Caroline loves her easel. She was far more interested in tearing tiny pieces of wrapping paper off every gift than actually seeing what the gift was. Gotta love these two year olds.
Which brings me to another question I’ll throw out for discussion. I’ve mentioned this one to David a number of times, but don’t think I’ve ever brought it up here. (If I have, humor me and pretend it is something you’ve never heard here, ok?) And people can either answer this as a married person or as a child observing the family in which they grew up.
Do you primarily think of yourself as a couple with a child/children or a family? Do you think this is impacted by the age at which you got married? How long you were married before you had children? How many children you have? Other factors?
I’ll briefly share my thoughts to start and probably share more later as people leave comments.
I think of us far, far more often as a couple with a child than I do a family. I more often think of us as David and Sallie and Caroline (three individuals) as opposed to a family. I think marrying later and being married for nine and a half years before having a child has greatly impacted these perceptions. I think also having an only child makes me less inclined to think of us as a family, even though I know we are.
I’m guessing people who have children shortly after marrying are much more apt to think in terms of family as opposed to couple with children.