I saw this quote in Karen’s sidebar and have been meditating on it this week.
Many Christian parents, myself included, tend to speak to children as though they were Pharisees. We can speak harshly and with judgment, implying by our manner that their hearts are hard and resistant. But this attitude is not justified by Scripture. There is no record of Jesus ever speaking to a a child in a harsh tone. When the Gospels record Him speaking to a child, it is always with gentleness. Our children are not our adversaries. Though our children’s hearts are corrupted by sin, they are not hardened sinners who have made conscious choices to reject the Savior. Our children are simply immature and childish. That’s why children need love and compassion, not harshness and guilt.
Clay Clarkson in Heartfelt Discipline: The Gentle Art of Training and Guiding Your Child
Sallie, I really needed this today! As my daughter inches closer to two, I have really been trying to pay attention to how I respond to her.
Ashley – You are very welcome. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who can struggle with this at times. 🙂
I struggle with not knowing if Caroline is 4 going on 5, 4 going on 2, or 4 going on 10. 🙂
Wonderful quote and reminder. We must be so careful with how we say things.