Homeschooling Introverts

5 Important Truths for Introverts Who Homeschool

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If I were to give one reason why I can’t homeschool, it would be the fact that I’m an introvert. A really big introvert. An I-will-die-if-I-don’t-get-enough-time-to-myself-every-day introvert.

Obviously it isn’t a good enough reason because we’ll be entering our fourth year of homeschooling this fall. But my introversion is probably the biggest hurdle I have to personally jump while homeschooling Caroline.

Over the past few years I’ve had to find ways to homeschool effectively and keep myself mentally sane healthy and happy at the same time. Here are five important truths I’ve learned.

Important Truths about Homeschooling and Introverts

1. Embrace the fact that you are an introvert. We live in a culture that worships the extroverted ideal. Being an introvert can often feel like swimming against the tide.  But remember this truth. God made you an introvert. He could have made you any way He chose, but He specifically created you as an introvert. You are an introvert, specifically wired this way by the Creator of the Universe.  Woo hoo!  Embrace your introvertedness!

2. Don’t try to ignore or downplay your introversion. Your introversion is an important part of your personality. It isn’t something you choose to be or not be.  Recharging alone isn’t optional for introverts. Extroverts can get recharged at co-op, church and Target. Introverts need time alone. Pretending that it isn’t important is a sure fire recipe for burnout or, even worse, depression.

3. Don’t be a martyr. In order to be a healthy homeschooling mom you need to take care of yourself spiritually, physically and mentally. It is not selfish to act on the fact that you need time alone every day. It is wisdom and good stewardship. You don’t do yourself or your family any good if you ignore your most basic needs of space and time alone.

4. Plan strategically for introvert time. Do a children exchange with another introverted mom on a regular basis.  You each get a free afternoon every week. Block off thirty minutes a day when you are left alone and your husband can run interference. If thirty minutes seems impossible, start with fifteen. Ideally, I would guess most introverts need at least an hour to thrive, but start with something. Don’t ignore your need because it seems impossible. Start with whatever small step you can take and build from there. Make a plan. Just like you plan the education of your children, plan for your own well-being.

5. Utilize outside help. I love my daughter dearly. But as a homeschooling mom I’m with her basically 24/7 unless my husband takes her out to do something and I stay home. I am very thankful for our homeschool co-op. It is a few hours every week when Caroline learns and has fun with other children and I can be freed up from her presence, questions and energy. Knowing how good it is for both of us, I will continue to utilize outside help for the very same reason. By using other teachers and professionals, I get a much needed introvert break and she gets to learn from other talented people.

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5 Important Truths for Introverts Who Homeschool


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  • Hi, I am not an introvert but I have to start my day slowly and silently and alone. I literally cannot bear noise until I have come round. My husband brings me a coffee and I fiddle with my phone or sit quietly for a bit. Then I get up and make a massive mess, noise etc but I have to have my 15 minutes or I am out of sorts for the rest of the day. I think it is great to hear that others need this, too. Always felt a bit selfish about it.

  • Hello.

    I just stumbled on your site by coincidence and am very happy that I did.

    I am a  total extrovert, homeschooling an introvert.  This is a big challenge for me and I often feel like I am failing my daughter.  She also shows signs of anxiety and therefore has a hard time to express her thoughts and feelings so reading you is helping me understand her.

    Thank you for doing that.

    • Hi Marie,

      I’m so glad you found this post helpful! Parenting an introverted child can probably be a bit bewildering at times for an extravert. But your daughter is so blessed that you are taking the time to understand her. I have a lot of posts on my site related to personality types and introverts in particular because I believe understanding those ideas can make parenting and homeschooling so much easier. You can see most of them on my Personality Types and Parenting page.

      Best wishes!


Sallie-Schaaf-Borrink-060313-B-250x250I'm Sallie, teacher by training and now homeschooling mom of Caroline. My passion is to provide products, encouragement, and information that helps others discover and do what works with their children. I also write about living a cozy life as a highly introverted person. Welcome! ♥

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