We currently live in the city. In approximately 23 days (!) we will no longer own this house. The buyer has generously given us ample time to get out. But the questions are what and where? Buy or rent? City or country?
We’ve talked for years about city versus country. We’ve looked at numerous houses in both locations over the years and waxed eloquent about the pros and cons of each. Now we’re actually faced with making the decision and it’s a hard one. We don’t plan on moving again for a long time so whatever we choose we’ll be stuck with it enjoying for a long time.
So what do we consider?
The positive of the city/suburbs is that it is familiar. It is home. It is convenient. There is variety. We are a family that likes to do things. We like to go to museums and concerts and bookstores and coffee shops. We like to stop at Panera for a bagel and coffee or Starbucks for a snack while we are out doing errands. We’re a doing family and living in the city makes it easy to do a wide variety of things.
Another thing I think about is the fact that if homeschooling doesn’t work out for whatever reason, we have many options in the city. There are many Christian schools in our area so we would have choices.
The negatives of the city/suburbs? I miss the sky. I would like to be somewhere were I can see the sky clearly and enjoy lots of stars. I miss the quiet. I miss the views. I refuse to buy a house in a development that requires me to look at the two or three story backs of three or four or ten other cookie cutter houses. I cannot begin to explain how that sucks the life right out of me. It depresses me. I looked at a beautiful house today but the newer development depressed me. No trees. No views. Just rows of houses. Plain houses with no imagination or beauty.
In the city there are very few opportunities for Caroline to run freely. And by run freely I don’t mean wander around unsupervised. I mean run down a hill or across a large open spot of lawn. Even an acre or two provides more places for her to explore and garden and dig in the mud and do all the things little children should do. A place to put a hammock. A place to put a playhouse.
So the negatives of the country. The distance. The isolation. Those are probably the two big ones. I wonder if we would seriously weary of having to drive back into the city every time we wanted to do something. If we’re entering a time of much higher gas prices in history, this could become a very big negative for us.
And the idea of living in the country also makes me feel isolated and vulnerable. Whether it is true or not isn’t what I’m thinking. It is just the feeling of it being that way. Buying a house in a small development might alleviate some of that, but I’m not sure. I’m used to having lots of neighbors nearby and find a measure of security in the nearness of the other people.
If we move to the country, we’ll need another car. In the city we are able to easily get by with one (although there are times I would like a second car now).
If we move to the country, we will have to look for another church. After we finally found this one.
I think we are leaning toward city. We’ve lived in the NE part of GR for fourteen years now. This really does feel like home to me. The thought of starting all over again by moving to a new part of town or a new town is not very appealing at this moment. We live in a nice area, by far the nicest part of the GR area. I like it that the people know me at Starbucks and Meijer and Qdoba and the other places we frequent. I don’t know that I want to give all that up.
So we’re looking at rentals and looking online at houses. We’re praying for direction. After we close on selling our house, I’ll be more at liberty to discuss the process and so on. But until we have actually sold, I don’t want to discuss any details. But we’re excited to see where God will lead us next!