Here are the observations and thoughts of a first time mama after twelve weeks (in no particular order)…
I thought Caroline would be sleeping through the night by now.
I have to accept that Caroline will have “off” days and there is nothing I can do to change that or improve her “off” days no matter how much I want her to be happy and smiley. Just like I wake up grumpy some days, so will she.
I don’t think Caroline is going to be a snuggler or cuddler (very big sad sigh).
I never appreciated how much I got done in a day until I had Caroline. I always had this vague sense of “I could do so much more” each day. Now when I see what I don’t get done in a day compared to before, I realize I did do a lot before.
I’m surprised by how much I’m not keeping track of “what Caroline is supposed to be doing now”. People will ask me when she will be able to do this or that or when this thing will happen and I usually say, “I have no idea.” I am incredibly casual about the whole milestone thing. The only two that I’ve been “waiting for” are/were when she recognizes us and when she sleeps through the night. I rarely look at a baby book or website about this kind of stuff (compared to my pregnancy when I devoured everything I could read).
Things I feared that have not come to pass and for which I am truly thankful: colic and projectile vomiting.
For some reason unknown to me, some experienced moms like to tell you about how with their first baby they were so careful and then after two or three more it just didn’t matter. It is usually said in a manner that indicates to me that they think I am being an obsessive first time mother about some issue and they are mocking me. I don’t particularly enjoy this.
Elderly people love to look at babies and it gives me great joy to slow down and let them enjoy looking at Caroline.
I don’t know how people lived without baby monitors, especially in two story houses. I love my monitor. It was pricey, but I sleep peacefully at night knowing it is on and monitoring her movement/breathing.
For anyone who has a two story house and has a c-section, I highly, HIGHLY recommend a pack and play like we got. It has a bassinet insert and a changing table. We had it set up in the living room and I rarely had to go up the stairs while I was recovering. I can’t imagine recovering without it.
I have no idea how women go back to work after six weeks and juggle a full-time job, a new baby, a marriage, and a home.
I attribute my general overall well-being after twelve weeks to my husband. He has been so hands-on and helpful. I cannot imagine doing this if I were doing all of the feedings and he left every day for a job. I know millions of women do it, but I can’t wrap my mind around it.
They say when you are an older parent you may lack the energy you had when you were younger, but you have more wisdom and life experience. Well, the verdict is out on the wisdom part, but the lack of energy holds true!
You can never have too many bibs.
I’m glad Caroline has hair. I know in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t that important, but I think it makes her so cute!
A Sunday afternoon drive in the country with mochas is great therapy for every member of the family. 🙂