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Does Homeschooling Devalue Women?

December 1, 2015 by Sallie Borrink
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My post Gifted Children in the Classroom From A Teacher’s Perspective recently sparked a discussion on social media. The topic (described as one of the elephants in the room) is that homeschooling devalues women personally and professionally. Some women agreed with that statement and others disagreed.

I disagreed and realized that I wanted to explore a bit here whether or not homeschooling devalues women.




The Personal And The Professional

Women make a wide variety of choices.

  • There are many women who have no desire for a professional life.
  • There are other women who choose to value their professional life over their personal life.
  • There are some who attempt to juggle both personal and professional equally well.
  • There are yet others who choose to focus on one for a season and then the other for another period of time.

I’m not going to explain why I might personally think one might be right or better than the other and the rest are wrong in this discussion. Rather I’m simply going to acknowledge that women approach these aspects of their lives in a variety of ways.

The question we’re focusing on is whether or not homeschooling in and of itself devalues women. I think it depends on the filter though which you see life.

Professional Status And Income

Homeschooling will clearly devalue women if I view life primarily through the lens of professional status and income. There’s nothing wrong with money and wanting to earn lots of it as long as it isn’t an idol. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to excel professionally as long as it isn’t to the neglect of loved ones and other responsibilities in my life.

But if I believe my value as a woman is based on my earning potential and my ability to compete with men in the marketplace, then I will see choosing to homeschool as devaluing. There is no way homeschooling can compete with professional advancement and income if the primary lens of life values those more highly.

If status and income is my lens and I earn less and achieve less, then homeschooling certainly devalues me.

However, I think it is dangerous to view life through that lens for a number of reasons. Let’s look at a few of them.




Less Of A Role Model?

Some women feel strongly that they want to be a role model to their children regarding the value of women in the marketplace. For women who have worked hard to achieve in college and their profession, this can be incredibly important. Many women make significant sacrifices in order to compete professionally and they derive a great deal of satisfaction from what they have accomplished. Some women work in fields that are very challenging to re-enter if they leave for a number of years.

However, I don’t want a young girl such as my daughter to learn that women are valuable because they go to work and earn a paycheck. I wouldn’t want her to think I was valuable because I had a prestigious job and outranked men. I don’t think girls should learn that women are valuable because they can compete with men and outearn them.

To start with, I want my daughter to know that she’s valuable because of her standing in Christ.

  • Not because she learned her multiplication facts quickly.
  • Not because she scored well on a test.
  • Not because she got her first choice university.
  • Not because she has a college degree.
  • Not because she has a husband.
  • Not because she is a mother.
  • Not because she beat out a man for a promotion.

Her value is in Christ.

I want her to know that women have a value that is not based on performance. I wasn’t a more valuable woman when I was teaching full-time and earning a full-time income. I’m not more valuable because I’m married. I’m not more valuable because I am a mother.

I’m a valuable woman because I am made in the image of God and I bring gifts, skills, insights, and the love of Christ wherever I go.




When The Ability To Compete Is Gone?

I see the importance of this because my chronic illness has changed my personal and professional life in significant ways I could have never anticipated when I was younger. If I believe my value depends on my ability to compete in the marketplace and earn a paycheck, then my value disappears as soon as I am unable do those things. This is the very same trap that many men fall into when they lose their job and, therefore, their perceived identity.

Ironically, I feel the value that I can bring to the world as a woman has increased exponentially since I’ve had to make changes out of necessity. Thanks to the internet, I have the ability to add value to those I come into contact with. I can use my gift of writing to encourage and challenge people around the world. I can use my creative gifts to bless women, homeschoolers, and teachers without ever leaving home.

The beauty is that I can do this while homeschooling my daughter. She is learning that I can bring value to the world even from my corner office on the second floor of our home. I am showing her how God can work through even a less than fantastic physical situation and open opportunities that I might not have had otherwise.

Homeschooling Brings Value

Homeschooling my daughter does not devalue me. It opens up new opportunities for her and me. It opens up new friendships in real life and online. It allows both of us to tap into gifts and abilities that would be lost in traditional school and job settings. Rather than forcing her to submit to the structure of a mass educational model that isn’t equipped to deal with her unique learning needs and skills, I can provide opportunities for her to grow and develop as a unique individual who will eventually become a strong woman.

Homeschooling allows me to mentor and disciple my daughter in meaningful ways. She is learning that her value rests in bringing her God-given gifts and abilities to the world despite whatever circumstances in which she might find herself. She is learning that life doesn’t boil down to a university education and professional advancement. It can be quietly doing your very best from home in a cute little town in Michigan. This is, in my humble opinion, a far more powerful message and example to provide her.

Homeschooling Is Often A Sacrifice

There’s no doubt that homeschooling is a sacrifice for some women. It often entails making very hard choices, including giving up jobs and activities we previously enjoyed. Even before the changes necessitated by my chronic illness, I felt like I had to give up a lot to parent a high-need baby and now homeschool a gifted/2e child. Caroline is currently nine and I am profoundly thankful that her increasing maturity allows me more freedom to pursue my own personal and professional interests. To be sure there were minutes, hours, and even days I honestly mourned what I have given up. But I would do it all again because I know it is what is best for her.

It’s A Matter Of Perspective

I think the answer to the original question is a matter of perspective. If a woman believes that homeschooling devalues her worth as a woman, then it probably will. She will focus on what she has lost and how she no longer has the position and income she had before. If a woman believes that homeschooling is an opportunity or necessity that is worth the trade-off, then she will feel empowered for making a choice that best fits her worldview.

In the end, I believe it probably becomes a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy.


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  1. Catherine

    December 1, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    My husband did the homeschooling for the first eight years, so it certainly didn’t devalue me!! I started homeschooling the kids when I quit working because of my chronic migraines. I never really felt devalued because of the unique situation I was in. Besides, I’ve always felt that women should be free to make their life choices based on what is best for their family at a given time. I homeschooled when I wasn’t able to work outside the home. My husband did the schooling when it made more sense for me to be the one with the career. And it worked.

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  2. Lisa

    December 2, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    God called me from a lucrative career in education of more than 20 years to homeschool my youngest gifted son. I needed a break from teaching, but never imagined I’d be in this position three years later. The lack of money is difficult. It’s difficult being uncomfortable, but actually KNOWING my sons and being able to be there for them is priceless. My husband struggles with our lifestyle every day, so I do harbor some guilt through him, but I’m sure I’m on the right path. God has truly provided every time I’ve been ready to chuck it all. I am truly blessed.

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  3. Eliz

    December 4, 2015 at 10:46 am

    Sallie, thank you for your wise words! Your words are applicable to every homeschooling family that values the development and use of our God-given gifts in all situations. This is especially important in this modern world. Our value is unchanging even though our circumstances or other’s opinions keep changing. Homeschooling shapes the present and the future of our families. Thank you for putting this into words so well. You have a gift for insightful, clear, and concise writing.

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  4. Kelley

    January 16, 2016 at 11:35 am

    I find homeschooling to be a privilege. So many people have to “settle” for an education system they view as less than optimal because they can’t afford for one member of the household to stay at home and lose income, or they don’t feel that they’re able to do for whatever other reason. I am a college educated woman, and I feel confident in my ability to teach my child. I see that as very empowering, personally. I do babysit part time for extra income, but mostly we just do without. We drive older cars, we don’t have pretty new furniture, we don’t live in a large house. But we have peace and we’re happy. I realize you’re coming from a Christian perspective, I’m not. However, I do feel every bit as “called” to provide this lifestyle for our family as long as we’re able. I always say, and firmly believe it to be true for Christians and non-Christians alike: Comparison kills joy. We have to focus on our own families and do our best for them.

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  5. Erica Tate-Vuyk

    August 25, 2017 at 7:52 pm

    I long for the day when ALL Christians wake up to the fact that our value depends on our standing in Christ. Our gospel message might be a bit more believable when we believe it ourselves, and stop trying to compete with the world in any way! I often wish we could go back to a pre-Industrial Revolution view of the family… that way, neither the mother NOR the father parent would feel that their value lay in how much income they brought in, but rather in how the family as a whole was doing: how strong the relationships within the family were, how well the parents were mentoring their children – that kind of thing.

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  6. Erica Tate-Vuyk

    August 25, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    Sorry, typo in my previous comment. The third sentence should read “… that way, neither the mother NOR the father would feel that …” – i.e. the word “parent” should be deleted.

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  7. Sally

    August 30, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    I really appreciated your message about our value being in Christ! I think the struggle with homeschooling being devaluing would really be based one whether you think staying home with your kids is devaluing. That is something I have personally battled over the last year, finding my worth when I stay home with the same four people all day, and reading this was deeply encouraging to me. Thank you!

    On a humorous side, when I first saw the title of the article I thought, “Well, since my DAD was my teacher, I’m not sure how homeschooling devalued any of the women in our family… maybe by implying that my mom wasn’t smart enough to teach us?!” So there’s that – homeschooling is not inherently feminine, nor is it inherently the mother’s job, so it can’t be inherently devaluing of women 😉

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