Remember how I shared just a few months ago that Caroline and I had gone through the process to prove out our lineage and qualify for the Daughters of the American Revolution? We completed the process and became charter members of our chapter.
About a month later, I was looking something up online and discovered the DAR had made the decision in recent years to allow men to join.
I cannot fully express to you how sick I felt when I read that.
It NEVER crossed my mind when we were looking into the DAR that the organization would have caved on this issue. It’s a women’s group that makes you jump through a LOT of hoops to prove that you qualify. I know some of you probably think all I do is read current events all day, but I don’t. I had not come across this when I was looking up information on DAR. And, as I said, it never crossed my mind that this would be the case. Naive, I know, given how the National Panhellenic Conference sororities caved on similar things.
Anyway, I felt completely deflated after I discovered this. If the leadership cannot be truthful about basic biology and protecting women, then how do I trust them with other things?
So after thinking I had found something to enjoy in the coming years, I realized that this wouldn’t be the case. I can deal with the not discussing politics and religion aspect of DAR in order to maintain a focus on the mission. But I can’t deal with denying basic Truth.
I don’t regret the time or money invested in going through the process. This is something I had always wanted to research and prove out so I’m glad I did it. I’m thinking that instead of spending money on a yearly DAR membership, I can spend it on membership to a genealogy website and continue doing my own research.
But, yes. Sigh.
I’m done joining groups. I’d rather just read a book or chat with you all in the comments or forum.
If you want to read about the DAR admitting men (transgenders), here are two links. The information is at the very end of the Wikipedia article.
- Daughters of the American Revolution on Wikipedia
- Historic US women’s group provokes anger by allowing trans members from The Times
How terribly sad. There is not one institution anymore that has not been affected by the madness of our times. I’m so sorry for you to not be able to enjoy a new adventure as a result. 🙁 I would love to learn from you how you are researching your genealogy. I’d love to pursue that at some point. We know that we have ancestors who came over on the Mayflower, but I’d love to learn more.
Hi Amy,
It is sad. It’s also mind-boggling how women have been willing to sell each other out. What’s even more ironic is that it’s the women who have been on the “forefront” of fighting for women who have pushed through these insane policies in churches, affinity groups, etc.
I will try to remember to write more about how I started out my search. If I remember correctly, there is a Mayflower society that I think helps people trace out their ancestry. But I have no idea how much help they give, etc. That is one nice thing about the DAR. They are eager to help you do the research and the woman in the chapter who helped me was so nice.
It all makes me so sad.
Sallie
This makes me sad as well. I know how much work you did for this. My late aunt did alot of research work into my dad’s side of the family about our lineage. I need to find the research she did. I would be interested to know how you do this research.
Hi Amy, Genealogy is a hobby of mine and I’ve been adding to my family tree for the past 20 years. My research has extended long past my own family. I’ve paid for all of the research subscriptions and would be happy to help you with your tree if you’d like (no charge). I have several Mayflower ancestors – maybe we’re related! My email is stacybc@telus.net. Sallie, I hope you don’t mind me sharing this here.
Thank you, Stacy! I will be in touch! I really appreciate your gracious offer of help!
Sallie, I wanted to reply to your post as well. It’s so absolutely disheartening how so many institutions have been completely captured by this insane ideology. I can completely relate to your disappointment. I find myself seething every time I’m filling out a form of any kind, and it asks me for my pronouns and how I identify if there are any options other than male or female.