Friend, Parent, or Both?
Anyone who has read my site for an extended period of time will know that we lean heavily toward finding the balance in this. I don't think it is a question of one or the other. At least with the child I was called to raise, it has been possible to do both by investing a LOT of relational time and energy.
Sue has a good post about this topic - Stories About Connection from Radical Unschool Love. I haven't been able to listen to the podcast yet, but wanted to recommend her post to you.
If you aren't familiar with the video she's referring to in her post that went viral a few years ago, I'll embed it here. For the record, I'm not a fan of this video for a lot of reasons but wanted to include it for context if you missed it before.