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When People Find Your Intellect Intimidating — A Guide For Gifted Women

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I remember clear as day the first time my dad and brother told me that it would take a special man to marry me because I'm intimidating. I was shocked. I never saw myself that way because I didn't know life any other way.

You don’t do it on purpose.
Intimidate people.
You’re just being you.
In fact, you’re holding back. Slowing down. Smiling. Being gracious. Stifling your curiosity and your perceptions. Carefully selecting from the scores of effervescent thoughts that continuously swirl around in your brain.
If they only knew how much you’re NOT showing.
Oh, boy.
And yet, you still scare them.

And from my site:

Gifted Children Don’t Know Life Any Other Way

This topic was modified 3 weeks ago by Sallie Borrink

Thankful wife of David for 22 years and momma to Caroline for 13 years - Relaxed/Unschoolerish - Lover of books - Seeker of wisdom - Drinker of too many coconut milk mochas from Starbucks

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